What is the purpose of life? I believe the purpose of life is to return to the pure joy we felt when we entered this world.
Rebirth.
You and I both began as pure joy and self-love: a “bundle of joy” as they say. A baby loves her/himself completely. A baby even loves their own feces! There is nothing about a baby (S)he does not adore about her/himself.
How, then, does one go from being a human that loves every part of her/himself to someone who feels unworthy, unlovable, lonely, helpless, stressed, overweight, ill, depressed, anxious, and frustrated?
We like to claim we are the victim, but the reality is that nobody on this planet has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. If someone treats you slightly worse than you treat yourself, you will rid them from your life very quickly. However, if someone treats you badly, but slightly better than you treat yourself, you will most likely stay with that hurtful person forever.
Bottom line: You will continue to attract into your life what you feel you deserve, and you can only love another to the degree that you love yourself.
Let me repeat that because this realization changes everything. You attract into our life what you feel you deserve, and you can only love someone else, even your own children, to the degree that you love yourself. You, my friend, have a responsibility to love yourself, if not for you, then for those you love.
For any problem, no matter how complex, there is ultimately one solution: Loving and accepting yourself exactly as you are.
When you really start to think about it, why wouldn’t you love yourself? We are all doing our best, is this not so?
If you could do better, wouldn’t you? You want happiness, and making better choices would make you happier, but you don’t, because what you have done up to this point is literally your best. If you can do no better, you are perfect, exactly as you are. You are whole, exactly as you are. There need not be any shame, no matter how terribly you feel you have strayed.
We are meant to continue growing and learning and doing better as we go. We, by our very nature, are forward moving creatures of survival and evolution. Mama O (the great Oprah Winfrey) says, “when we know better, we do better.” Be proud of yourself for making it here!
When you realize that you are truly doing your best, most of the anger you hold onto begins to dissolve. Your parents, pastors, teachers, spouses, friends, and others, no matter how badly they treated you, were also doing their best. This can be a difficult pill to swallow, especially in cases of physical abuse or worse, but, no matter, it remains true. Your parents’ parents, no matter how awful, were also doing their best. We are all victims of victims.
There is hope though! Please really hear me on this: You are literally, scientifically, made of light and love. You are the oak within the acorn.
Let me explain.
A tiny acorn holds within it the potential for an entire forest. How miraculous! This acorn may fall to the ground and remain only an acorn until it disintegrates into the ground and beautifully nourishes the soil from which it came. But, if the seed is properly watered, nourished, and cultivated, an entire tree, and yes, even an entire forest could emerge from that one tiny, well cared for acorn.
You, like the acorn that longs to become a Tree, must properly care for and cultivate yourself in order to reach your greatest potential. You are made of endless, forward moving potential energy with a specific set of struggles and difficulties in this lifetime that are meant to teach, guide, and shape you into a higher, happier, healthier version of your true self.
However many times you try to really change your life though, until you seek out, recognize, and break free of the programming that enslaves you, you will continue to repeat the same negative patterns and behaviors, yielding the same results time and time again. The time and circumstances may differ, but the unhealthy patterns remain.
If you’ve spent any time getting to know me, you know how I love the Trees. They are gorgeous, powerful, intelligent beings who teach me daily. Their energy comes through me like the energy of old, feisty, compassionate, hilarious aunties and I love them very, very much. I seek wisdom from them and they offer it so generously, it brings me to tears to even try and describe. The Trees have taught me the power of empathy, and they love to remind me, “Always Self-Empathy First.”
So many of us guilt, shame, and punish ourselves endlessly and never, ever feel good enough. In fact, we’re the only creatures alive that punish ourselves again and again for the same mistakes.
The Tree, in contrast, from the time it is a tiny seedling until the day it takes its last breath, knows that she is perfect, ever-changing, and beautiful. Firmly rooted and deeply connected to all that surrounds her, she bends and breathes, sways and dances through every struggle. The Tree never tries to control the storm. The Tree is in fact strengthened by the storm. In her great wisdom, she lets go of the need for resistance and control and enters the flow of nature. This is how the Tree has become the most resilient creature that lives or has ever lived on this great planet.
The Tree does not desire to be like any other Tree. The Tree thrives when she loves and supports herself first. And so it is with us. We, too, are perfect, beautiful in our uniqueness, and always changing. But, instead of allowing adversity to flow through us, we hold onto it. Instead of swaying and dancing with the storm, we stay rigid and try to control it. Instead of loving ourselves exactly as we are, we compare ourselves to others and wish we were different.
When we resist the flow of nature, the stress and adversity we experience therefore gets stuck in the form of anxiety, depression, weight issues, and disease. This rigidity blocks us from seeing ourselves for the beautiful, perfect, forward-moving creatures we are. It blocks us from accomplishing our dreams. It robs us of our true purpose– a return to the pure joy we are made of.
The fix is very simple. We must empty our cup before we can fill it again.
We think on average 6,000 thoughts per day, and it is believed that only about 60 of those are new thoughts. If you truly want to manifest your fullest potential, you must seek out, face head-on, and unlearn the programming and thought patterns that are detriments to your health, happiness, and overall wellbeing. And believe me, there are a lot of them.
This is dirty but exhilarating work, and it must be done. You wouldn’t dig into yesterday’s trash to find the ingredients for your next meal, would you? As you evolve, your old thought patterns and behaviors must too evolve. You must face and toss out the mental garbage that no longer serves you and replace it with new neural pathways that reunite you with your truest, most authentic, happiest self.
Whether it’s finally losing the weight, finding your higher purpose, healing a broken relationship, thriving financially, or taking your overall life to the next level of true joy and satisfaction, there is great hope and happiness around the next corner if you choose to face these things.
If you choose it, this will be a pivotal moment for your life. I sincerely desire your happiness, and I will be there every step of the way to help guide you to your ultimate whole-hearted joy. However, receiving my help is a choice that only you can make. I cannot fix your life for you. Nobody can. I promise to show up, and I expect you to show up, open-minded and vulnerable and ready for change.
Life is not meant to be miserable. Sure, we are meant to struggle. This is how we learn and grow. But, while the inevitable duality of this Universe is sure to create ups and downs, life can be lived with ease, no matter what may be happening externally. Life is meant to be full of pure JOY, even through the difficult times. I promise, living a fulfilling, happy, successful life is not far out of reach, if you’re willing to open your mind and receive.
My deep desire is to place in your hands the tools I have acquired over many years of research, meditation, study, and divine spiritual guidance. These tools help me navigate the most difficult of circumstances with ease and they have been entrusted to me in the form of: The laws and patterns of the Universe, signs, symbols, numbers, earth stones, and more. I engage a full body/mind transformation with these sacred gifts in conjunction with the use of cognitive behavioral techniques, meditation, stone absorption, pendulum work, mirror work, tarot cards, energy clearing, and breath-work.
Working with me means facing your demons head on. Ultimately, you will come to the understanding that these are not demons at all, but friends meant to teach, guide, and provide great wisdom, if you will listen.
If working with me is something you feel you are ready for, reach out. I witness miracles everyday, and I know that those who are ready for true rebirth will find me.
Namaste. <3
